Thursday, September 27, 2012

The teen party in the city?

My teen girl just turned 14. I swear she has bipolar tendencies. She is the most awesome kid one minute laughing and joking and the next a raving lunatic. I don't get it, I can't even try to relate to that kind of crazy.

Her friend is having a party. In the city. My first thought was Hell to the NO. Why the hell would someone from the suburbs have a damn party in the city. The city that is #3 on the highest crime rate list in the whole United States. I will tell you honestly I have walked the streets of Manhattan alone at night and I will not walk the streets of St. Louis alone, even in broad daylight. Don't get me wrong I love parts of the city, but it is not a place for kids to go to a party. Some parts are ok, most are not.

So I listened to all the people from the county who were going and I asked where this party was. It is on a state street. A fucking state street. You have got to be off your damn rocker to think I am letting my kid go to a party on a state street! Hell to the MOTHERFUCKING no!

 It is well known in the county not to step foot near a street named after a state, a president or Martin Luther King, Jr-  in the city because they are not safe. I asked my friend, and she flipped her lid too, I take it she has heard that one before too! I thought that would suffice, hell no kid is like a rabid dog with a kid with full of peanut butter on his face. She's not stopping until she can chew everyone's head off or go.

There have been numerous random murders in the past few weeks, it scares me. She doesn't understand. She thinks it is the end of the world. She was pulled out of school to homeschool after so many horrible happenings, maybe I feel like she has been through too much and I am overprotective. I don't know but the thought of searching the streets to bring my kid home in a body bag does not sound like how I want to spend my weekend. I don't think she realizes at a party people can come in slip something into her drink, if they are feeling nice, and drag her off. Nobody will realize for a while. That is 5 minutes, 10 minutes, maybe an hour that this scaredy cat kid will be left to her own devices. I am not cool with that. Do you think I am overprotective, crazy?

14 comments:

  1. not crazy, I'm the same way and with no where near the crime rate you are talking

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  2. Not crazy at all. You have to go with what your instincts are telling you. Better safe than sorry!

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  3. Not crazy; completely normal. I have an 18 year old and I would still say no. You're a good mom to have all of your reasons, but like Leslie said, instinct is everything.

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  4. Not crazy at all. That is too young to go to a party in a major city without you by her side the entire time. No. Way.

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  5. Give her a choice. Either she stays home and you are cool with her having a few friends over, *or* she goes to the party...but you come too, and you are her shadow all night long. Those will be my kid's options one day as well.

    She is 14; her brain isn't fully developed yet. Therefore, it is still your job to protect her whether she likes it or not.

    Stay strong momma!

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    1. I like that idea! She would rather be run over by a semi than have her mommy there watching her!

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  6. I don't understand. What are they doing for the party? I've never heard the stigma of State & President streets, but now that you mention it...it's totally true. But are they bowling or just having dinner? What? Who plans a birthday party for a 14 year old DOWNTOWN? I live in the suburbs of Atlanta...and over my dead body would my almost 14 year old be going downtown for a party...unless it was like for a concert (with parents) or a Braves game (with parents) or something.

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    1. It's a boy girl party, im assuming dancing and music, a nice invitation for unwanted guests...

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  7. HELL NO! I would never ever ever in a million years let her go! Good lord. I am not there yet with this age stage but you are doing the right thing.

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  8. You're absolutely not overreacting! She's 14 years old, she doesn't have enough maturity to understand the dangers!

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  9. You're not over-reacting and it is not the end of the world. The whole concept of this party is insane to me!! Give her a week and she'll be over it!

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  10. It would not even be a decision for me, I physically COULD NOT let her go to that. I don't care how 'end of the world' it is...not happening. Don't even have to think about it. The End.
    Devan

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  11. Honey I grew up on the state streets..I would not let her go...Just saying

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